It is ok for men to cry
As I wiped away those tears for what I hoped would be the last time, I was closing off to a part of myself that is there to help serve a purpose.
We love to close ourselves to what we feel and forget that feeling is a part of our lives; otherwise, we wouldn’t feel the way we do. I am not talking about touch, the feeling without touch, which we know we are human.
The release of a tear running down your face before it drops down in front and hits the ground, so quiet it cannot be heard, only felt. That moment slows down to allow all the senses to feel it, the soul’s releasing process.
When we are a child first learning to walk, we cry, and then we get up and go on. We eventually get to an age where we (mostly men) block this natural reaction to specific events. We can actually learn a lot from how children deal with emotions and life.
And we think this is normal, and when considering it is normal, it becomes unspokenly normal. We hide it to protect ourselves out in the world — the same world where everybody is doing the same thing continuing this cycle.
It is a protection mechanism not to look weak, but it has its purpose. Why else would we have the feeling of crying when something is sad? And it has its time a place. It is not always practical to be crying all the time and using this natural mechanism and the feelings we are holding in.
So the moral is to let it out. I feel so much better when I allow myself to have conversations about my feelings that may lead me to cry and let it out. And do not do this around everyone. Find someone that you can be vulnerable with so that you can let these repressed emotions go.
I have found so much peace of mind for allowing myself to be able to cry with certain people. It is liberating to feel like you can do this it helps it lets the body know that you are releasing stuff instead of holding it in. this is a skill for me men to be able to do at the right times and with the right people.
It took me years of repressing emotions to finally be able to let it all out and free myself from these emotions. So give it a try next time you feel like letting it out. We do not have to be macho all the time. We are allowed to be vulnerable.
